In 1990, the band Extreme released a beautiful acoustic ballad called “More Than Words.” The song lyrics include:
Saying I love you
Is not the words I want to hear from you
It’s not that I want you
Not to say, but if you only knew
How easy it would be to show me how you feel
What I love about the song, especially now that I’m older, is that it’s about showing love through action. We throw the word “love” around so much. “I love that dress.” “I love ice cream.” “I love that car.” We say the word often enough that without action behind it, it carries very little weight.
Here’s a 30-day challenge for you: learn the art of showing love. It’s February, which means Valentine’s Day. All over the country, people are buying gifts and ordering flowers, all in the name of showing their love for their significant other. But instead of doing what Hallmark tells us to do this month, let’s make it a consistent, daily practice to demonstrate our love through action, rather than just words or things. Whether it’s for your husband or wife, your child, your parents, your siblings, or a dear friend, consider these ideas to demonstrate your love for those who are most important to you:
- Give a hug, just because you want to.
- Take over dinner duties, and surprise them with their favorite meal.
- Pick a chore they hate to do and take care of it for them.
- Make reservations at their favorite restaurant as a surprise. • Brag about them on Facebook.
- Compliment them on how they look or what they are wearing.
- Offer to warm up the car for them in the morning.
- Program the coffee maker and surprise them with hot coffee when they wake up.
- Ask them about their day and really listen.
- Write a letter or send a card, just because and for no special reason.
- Let them have the last piece of pizza or the last cookie.
- Send a text in the middle of the day to just say “Hi, I was thinking about you!”
Showing love doesn’t have to be a huge, grand gesture. We’re led to believe that bigger is better. Not always. When it comes to showing love for our family and friends, it’s the small gestures that often mean the most. And when you make it a practice to show your love to those who matter most to you, they will truly understand the final lines of the first verse of Extreme’s “More Than Words”:
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldn’t have to say that you love me
‘Cause I’d already know.