Living Gently…Every Day: Have To vs. Get To

Wise Words: “Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men, knowing that you will receive the reward of an inheritance from the Lord. You serve the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24

Since June, my life has been full of craziness, upheaval, and change. Emotions have been running high. Feelings of anxiety and being overwhelmed have become commonplace. And all because of a move. As I write this, my husband and I are days away from selling one house, and buying another. To say that it’s been a stressful few months is an understatement. To add to the fun, my husband also started a new job, while I’m moving into the season in which we work on not just two magazines, but four! Camp Crazy, for sure!

As I was trying to decide what to write about this month, I came across a devotion I get in my email every day from Proverbs 31 Ministries. The writer spoke of the chores and obligations we have that bog us down and shared about her change in perspective when she turned her “have to’s” into “get to’s.”

I immediately sent this email to my husband and he agreed. All these weeks of waiting, wondering, praying, and at times, begging God to make things come together, we’ve also been in the mindset of paperwork that “has” to be done. Boxes that “have” to be packed. Repairs that “have” to be made. The list is long and tedious. But after reading this devotion, and this woman’s change of attitude, I recognized that I had in front of me a huge opportunity! And how truly blessed I was!

My whole attitude about the move was completely wrong. I didn’t HAVE to move. I GET to move. I GET to move into a beautiful house with the husband I love more than anything and make it our home. I needed to remember that this was never something I had to do, but something we chose to do. And in our choice, God gave us tremendous opportunities and blessings along the way. We just needed to learn how to trust.

It’s funny how sometimes, when you pray for something, and want so badly for something to happen, when it does, it feels scary and overwhelming! But I really believe that the “have to versus get to” mindset is something that could revolutionize the way I think of things.

I’ve often said that when I write this column, I write it for myself as much as I do for anyone else. At 40 years old, I am still learning life lessons to carry me through to the next season. This is my latest life lesson.

So, as my husband and I GET to finish with this move, I am going to try to turn every situation into a “get to.” It’s all about attitude and perspective. If the dishwasher breaks? I will get to clean up dishes because we were blessed enough to have food on the table. The toilet needs scrubbing? I’m grateful that we live in a society of indoor plumbing. If the air conditioner goes out? I’ll sit on the porch and enjoy the breeze, thankful that I work for Forsyth Magazines and have a large selection of magazines to fan myself with.

My challenge to you this month: What are the “have to’s” in your life that you can turn into “get to’s?”