Things That Make You Blush: Making Your Relationship Free Throws

Basketball games can be won and lost on making free throws. This may be something sports fans already know from watching college basketball games during the month of March, a time of year often called “March Madness,” or this may make no sense at all to readers. A free throw occurs as a result of a foul perpetrated by the opposing team or coach. Free throws look easy to make. The player stands 15 feet away from the basketball goal and throws the ball into the hoop without interference from the opposing team, which is why it’s called a free throw. Free throw percentages made for men’s college basketball teams range from 60-80%. Sometimes players get one free throw, sometimes two, and sometimes three chances to make a basket and are awarded one point per throw made. This sounds pretty easy to do, but many players miss their free throws due to nerves, pressure, poor concentration, lack of practice, or lack of skill. Funny how relationships can be won or lost on free throws, too.

To be successful at making a free throw, the player needs to be in the proper position (their feet, shoulders, and eyes facing the basket). The ball should roll off the fingertips at the right time, with the right amount of force, to travel above the rim and land in the basket. Making free throws takes a lot of practice. Relationship free throws take practice, too. A relationship free throw can roll out of the rim due to nerves, pressure, concentration, lack of practice or lack of skill. Think about relationship events like asking someone out for the first time, surviving a blind date or first kiss, or preparing for the first night together. Let’s take the free throw of “asking someone out.” This should be a “gimme,” but sometimes women miss these baskets. Women may be a little nervous about asking someone out and may fear potential rejection, just like the fear of missing a free throw in a game. Why not try the direct, honest approach? Step up to the free throw line, tell the potential date that you are interested in getting to know them and ask them on a date. If they decline, don’t fret. Keep practicing!

A first kiss may feel like getting three free throws instead of one. This could be a game changer. A rushed kiss could be a missed free throw or a “technical foul” if you take it too soon, while a passionate, well-timed first kiss could win the game. Expectations and experience in dating and relationships may determine if you are more of a first half player or second half player. Sometimes waiting for a first kiss is the best game plan for a lasting relationship. It could also signal the need for a new player. As the game progresses (you are dating for a while) and you are approaching the climax of the game, the next shot you take could be the decision to sleep together. Some players may rush this shot and not think about it too much. Over thinking this play could result in a miss. Other players may follow a game plan that involves practice, concentration, and preparation for this big moment. If this is the game plan, then the big shot better happen before the game clock runs out.

Just like in basketball, relationships can be won with a variety of game plans and free throw percentages. Every game is different, and every relationship is different. But typically, the team with more made free throws wins the game. So, don’t be nervous about the small, simple opportunities to make a point. Step up to the free throw line and take your best shot. Make March a month of many made free throws!